random words pt. 4

"I am who I was when you met me."

--I have always adamantly believed that a women will be with a man, hoping he has the potential to change into what she wants him to be--while a man will be with a women hoping that she NEVER changes.

That man usually never fully "evolves" into that specimen that the women feels he has the potential to become. Her "knight in shining armor". Her "Prince Charming". Those dreams are just that and usually have very little chance of materializing. Never try to mold that man into what you feel he should be. This leads to disappointment, arguing, and ultimately the end. If your first date was to the movies, is it really fair to expect anything grander for a second date? I understand it would be nice, but ASSUMING your dates will escalate in extravagance isn't wise. If his circle of friends includes a healthy amount of females, are you EVER right for asking him to dismiss them? You two being together does not make his circle smaller...you are an ADDITION. Embrace his friends, male and female alike.

I like to feel that I am growing as a man. Emotionally, mentally, and financially--purposely in that order. I understand that naturally my habits and reactions will change. I'm growing smarter with my money. I have more respect for "love". But essentially, my character traits have already developed by 22. I understand that I'm nonchalant. I understand I can be obstinate. I know that I have a hard time expressing myself emotionally. Those are traits you grow into, not out of. That probably won't change about me. Nor will they change about the "potential" man of your dreams. Understand that. I'm better than I was yesterday and tomorrow I will continue to improve--nonetheless--I am who I was when you met me. feel me.

--The Asset